Valentine's 2017

Another Valentine’s Day has come and gone.  How was your’s?  Valentine’s day has become something quite special for me.  I met my wife on Valentine’s day, but the significance of this day goes way beyond that.  It has become a touchstone for me of how our consciousness creates our experience.  I’ve already told you end of the story - I was introduced to my wife on Valentine’s day (in a church, by the minister who would end up marrying us).  Here is how the story begins…

For a very long time, I was single.  Not just unmarried, but not involved in any relationship of any kind.  For various reasons (none of them justified) I had bought into the idea that I wasn’t deserving of a relationship.  Back then, I would refer to Valentine’s Day as “Single’s Awareness Day.”  I would wish couples a “happy Single’s Awareness Day,” say that I celebrated Single’s Awareness Day, etc.  For years I did this… and for years, nothing changed.

Eventually, I recognized that by putting so much attention on the fact that I was single, on a holiday when there is so much focus on relationship, I was keeping myself stuck.  I decided I wasn’t going to do that to myself anymore and stopped referring to it as Single’s Awareness Day.  Rather than being upset at the holiday, I decided to use the extra focus in race consciousness on relationships to help elevate my intention and desire to be in a relationship.  Rather than disparaging Valentine’s Day, I would visualize what I wanted to experience instead.  I looked for expressions of love and allowed those to open my heart.  Two Valentine’s Days went by without a shift, but on the third… On the third I met the woman I would marry and I knew it!

It is so easy to disparage Valentine’s day.  Everything is at least twice as expensive, everywhere is crowded, etc., etc., etc.  The complaints are familiar to all of us.  However, those complaints do nothing to change the day itself, but they do determine our experience of it.

Whether you are in a relationship or not, want to be or don’t want to be, I strongly encourage you to take a look at your experience of this holiday and your views about it.  How do you talk about Valentine’s Day?  What thoughts spin in your mind?  Are those words and thoughts supporting the experience you want to create?  If not, make a different choice.  Let the additional pull of race consciousness lift your intentions higher.  All that focus “greases the wheels” of creation.  You can use that to support creating a new experience, or to lock yourself into what you don’t want.  You’ve got a whole year now to decided.  Will next Valentine’s Day be a drudgery, filled with complaints about a made-up holiday to sell cards and chocolate, or will it be a celebration of love, regardless of your relationship status?